How to fall in love (with someone who's REALLY ugly)

So, we’ve all been here. We’ve all had those dates that we would rather just not think about, and even those haunting Exs who you can’t actually believe you went out with...i mean really, how did you do it?! But for those people who are still in those sticky situations where maybe ‘it’s just a rebound’ (still, shame on you) fear not, there is a way to find that repulsive monster at least slightly attractive, and you could even fall in love with them...but let’s not jump to conclusions

First of all:

Take a deep breath and study their face:

Sounds disgusting right? Oh my god, are you serious? I actually have to look at them?! Well sonny, no ones THAT ugly, surely if man can make it to the moon and invent the rubber ducky, then you can look into your current boy/girlfriends face.

Once you’ve finally managed to do it (estimated time: 2 minutes) study it. Look for interesting features, and don’t tell me they don’t have any, because everyone has something! Are their eyes an interesting shade of green? Are those lips actually fuller then you originally thought? Do those freckles on their nose actually look vaguely cute?

Once you’ve found a feature that you think is actually quite nice, focus on it. When their talking, sleeping or just generally being with you. Don’t start thinking hell, she/he is really ugly, what am i doing with him/her? Start thinking, hey, in this light she/he actually looks quite nice or wow i actually like the way she/he scrunches up his/her nose when he/she laughs.

After doing this it’s time to think back to way your asked them out, or agreed to go out, with them in the first place. I know you were probably desperate, but they must have had that little something that made you think ‘might as well’, and chances are they are probably smittened to pieces that you’re going out with them. Trust me, they probably count their lucky stars and sit in wonder that someone as gorgeous as you actually ‘wanted’ to go out with them. Focus on that. Isn’t that a nice feeling? That someone is bowled head over heels with you, and would do anything for you because their just so grateful for it? Isn’t that what you want, to feel loved? It also means you hold the power to the relationship, which means that you are in control (feels good right?)

Another idea to do is to look at all the things their good at, and where their talents lie, and show off about them. If he/she is a musician, go to one of their concerts, and feel proud to show them off. Wouldn’t it be nice to say, ‘yeah, that’s my girl/boyfriend’ to an admiring crowd? Or even just to your mates by telling them ‘she/he’s so talented, she/he made the most extraordinary trifle for me yesterday, it was so thoughtful, as well as delicious’

Next it’s time to take a look at their personality. Chances are if they aren’t a good looker, their personality definitely makes up for it (if it doesn’t then why the hell are you going out with someone who’s grumpy/annoying/has an anger management problem/or is a psycho? That my friend is desperate to the extreme and i advise a visit to the doctor). Are they funny? Can they make you laugh? Is their sense of humour vaguely similar to yours? Start thinking about how nice it is that they can bring you into fits of giggles, even at a low point, or how those jokes do actually make you laugh. Make a note of all the nice things they do for you, like sweet texts, cuddles when your sad, surprises etc and start to think that actually, that’s really sweet of him/her, how thoughtful, especially since they didn’t have to.

Now when you kiss them (and you must do, even if it makes u wanna hurl), i’m guessing you either think of something else, or you pretend you’re kissing that hottie down the road. Sneaky, and not a bad tactic, but if you want to actually begin to like this person (who you are in fact going out with), then your imagination is going to have to take a break. When you kiss them, close your eyes, and picture them in the best light you have ever seen them. Even the ugliest of people can look vaguely attractive once in their lives, and it isn’t hard to look at someone for awhile and think, hey, you’re actually pretty cute. If you study a photo of the most stunning model, after awhile they begin to look less attractive, and this is the visa verse with your girl/boyfriend. Don’t forget to do romantic things together, as this will automatically bring you closer and create loving memories of the person, as well as make you both feel special.

The final and strangest thing one can do is tell them something personal about you, a secret, a confession, an anxiety whatever. This makes you more vulnerable, and you’ll cling closer to the person knowing that you can confide in them. A problem shared is a problem halved, and you’ll have a connection with your boy/girlfriend and soon you’ll want to open up that little bit more. Maybe they’ll share something with you as well, and you can have the wonderful sensation of being needed as well as trusted.

I cannot guarantee this will make you ‘love’ your girl/boyfriend, but i can only hope that staying with them now seems a little more bearable!

Cammie xxx